It was hard for Kaitlyn to reach out for help because, on the outside, it wasn't obvious that things were not going well.
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It’s hard because I feel like it doesn’t seem that bad from the outside. Like nothing was really apparent that there was an issue with me and my child. But like the way I felt was just exhausting. And it was constantly on. And it was just having intrusive thoughts. And I also dealt with like postpartum rage. Which was very shocking to me, because I wasn’t even used to feeling like that. And you always hear about sad after having a baby. You don’t hear about how much rage you’ll have. So that was very surprising.
Interviewer: And what did you do – OK, wait I have two questions so one at a time. So how did you know like, this is not normal?
Well I guess like I’m really been very conditioned to just like not talk about my feelings. Just from like my family background. We just don’t really do that. So I just kind of like repressed everything and just kept going. But I, like I started to physically feel it in my body. I started getting migraines more. I started grinding my teeth. Like to the point that my dentist just recommended a night guard and that had never been an issue before. So I feel like I was literally just suppressing everything so much. And just – I just felt like I couldn’t keep up with what I was doing. It just like wasn’t sustainable, but I had no choice. There was no option to stop.
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